Nine (9) Marital Mannerisms That Are Actually Good For Your Relationship

Every marriage has its uh-oh moments that leave you questioning your compatibility as a couple. While some behaviors, like cheating, are obvious deal-breakers, other seeming threats can actually have a positive impact on your relationship.(watch out for these things and don’t go too far.)



Learn how these marital issues can boost your bond, add romance and more


1.You both fantasize about other people: "A vivid imagination allows you to open up to your partner physically and emotionally." So thinking about a sexy neighbor, for example, can improve your marriage as long as those racy visions stay in your mind. That means leave it out of pillow talk; neither of you needs to know exactly who or what the other is thinking about. And don’t let daydreams jeopardize the intimacy you feel with your spouse, “The danger is when fantasy becomes an obsession that overshadows a real relationship.

2. He/She goes out with the guys/Ladies: Happily married couples have an active life together and dynamic life apart, Interests and hobbies outside of marriage feed a person’s spirit and help break up routine

3. You argue a lot: Fighting isn’t necessarily a sign of a broken relationship,  “It means you trust each other enough to share your feelings, The key is arguing without attacking your spouse’s character. And when you hear him out out and solve misunderstandings, you're strengthening your bond. Even recurring fights aren’t cause for concern. "Couples tend to recycle arguments, “Identify what you keep arguing about when you're not in the heart of a fight. Try, ‘I know you don't like the way I clean the kitchen, but it looks clean to me when I'm done. How can I make you feel better about it?’ Listen, and then mention what triggers you and why it's important to you. If you're constantly arguing about things that you can’t change about each other, like personality traits, you have to decide whether or not you can live with them.

4. He spends a lot of money on his hobbies: if the bills are paid and the kids are taken care of, let your husband get new golf clubs or go on a fishing trip.” Couples need to feel like they’re growing as individuals, and occasional splurges can enhance personal fulfillment. “When two people are happy separately, they have a better shot of going the distance together,

5. He/She uses bad: bad is a slippery slope, but it doesn’t have to mean disaster, . Couples who are honest about their interest in bad may be able to incorporate it into their sex lives. “Consider using it as a lead-up to the act or to enhance your routine, It only becomes problematic when bad is used in secret or instead of interaction with a partner. But if he or you use it occasionally when the other’s not around, that’s okay.

6. He works all the time: If your man is a workhorse, think back to when you first started dating, Chances are, his drive and passion for his job are qualities that initially attracted you to him. But it could be a problem if “work always comes first ahead of your kid’s school play or your anniversary.

7. You both flirt with other people online: Between Facebook, Twitter and more, it’s easier than ever to reconnect with old flames,  But flirty friendships can be healthy as long as they don’t get physical, “It’s a self-esteem boost when men you don’t live with find you smart, inspiring and beautiful, When women feel good, they make better moms and wives. But be careful: Virtual relationships lose their innocence when a married person becomes infatuated with someone else. And that obsession can cause someone to mislead their online love interest. "Avoid giving off vibes like you might get a divorce,“Bashing your husband because you’re having a bad day isn’t okay. Sending provocative photos is also a bad idea.

8. You’re too tired for sex: “We’re all overscheduled" It’s hard to find time for anything, let alone making love." But the less you do it, the less you’ll want to do it: A lack of intercourse causes testosterone levels to drop in both sexes, Instead of waiting for inspiration to strike, schedule sex. It gives you something to anticipate,  And have fun with it! e.g...Designate Tuesday night as date night then, send playful texts during the day to fuel the fire.

9. He’s close with a female colleague: Acknowledge that your husband’s success on the job may be a direct result of his ability to work well with others. In fact, your financial stability and social status may depend on this specific office relationship, While the potential exists for sexual feelings to arise when a man and woman work together, couples can beat the threat by talking openly about their fears. If your man is getting too chummy with his office wife "per say", ask him to keep conversations work-specific, stick to public places and avoid alcohol, which can lead to inappropriate behavior.[/color]